Welcome to another issue of Man Tools, the newsletter dedicated to the discussion of male masturbation! As you may know I just got back from a weeks long trip to Bali where I spent the majority of my time just laying by the pool. During this time I had plenty of opportunity to allow my mind to wander and to think about different things.

One of them is how lucky I am to be a part of this community of people who identify as Bators. To celebrate that I want to help make more connections across the Man Tools community. I am always looking for people who want to be featured so if you want to then please let me know, especially if you would like to be interviewed about your experiences as a bator. A couple of issues ago I featured Jezza AKA SFSockGuy and I want to be able to feature more people like him.

Along with that I also want to see more members coming and joining the various other platforms. I want you to come and join both the Man Tools Telegram Members Chat which always has plenty of chat going on, I also want you to come and join the Mastodon Mastobate community. I also set up a group on Bateworld called Man Tools where you can come and chat as well. If you have any other ideas of community tools we can use to connect with I am also open to anywhere else you like to gather and talk bate!

Today I want to talk about acceptance. With international day against homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia occurring on the 17th may, I realised that maybe members of the bate community and fellow readers of Man Tools might also feel the need for some acceptance

So what does acceptance mean for us as bators? I must admit sometimes I feel that we are misunderstood by both members of the gay and straight communities. They don’t understand how we can enjoy just bating. They don’t understand how we can enjoy our own self pleasure in the ways we do.
 
So how can we learn to accept not just ourselves but also our sexual expressions and sexual pleasure? Then how can we also help our fellow bators to feel accepted as well?

First we need to acknowledge that any form of sexual expression we choose is equally valid. You can have multiple sexualities and sexual identities and they do not have to be mutually exclusive. For instance I identify as a gay male. But this is not the only way in which I express my sexuality. I also identify as a bator, sometimes I even refer to myself as a solosexual (that is someone who gets their primary sexual satisfaction through themselves) or a pornosexual (that is someone who primarily gets off only through the use of porn). But you may have other ways in which you express and talk about your sexuality and your sexual expression. All of these are equally valid. 

Secondly we need to become advocates of different sexual identities. We should never be afraid to express our sexual selves. If you enjoy bating then you can bate. If you enjoy sex with another person you can enjoy it. Whatever you want to do you can. Within each of these different sexualities and sexual identities is a whole range of expressions and so we need to be advocates of allowing others the freedom to express themselves how they see fit.
 
I want Man Tools to be a place of radical acceptance. I want to make sure that everyone who reads this newsletter, participates on telegram, or comments on instagram all feel welcomed regardless of how they identify themselves. This radical acceptance should include the promotion of bate culture not in a way that excludes certain identities and expression but includes them. I see bate culture as an alternative to mainstream sex culture. A place where we welcome all men, regardless of age, shape, size, colour. That we open the door to everyone and welcome them with open arms. 

So if you feel like you don't accept your sexual identity you can always sign up for the Bate Support Program. This is a great way to explore yourself, your sexual identity, and your bate practice. 

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Also don't forget if you are interested in being featured in Man Tools then hit me up! 

Till next time bators
Ben