Welcome to another issue of the premier newsletter dedicated to the discussion and promotion of male masturbation! If you've been keeping up with my daily bate journal over on Instagram you will see that this week I have been edging for a few days. I really enjoy the feeling of being very horny but not giving in to the ejaculation. But this is not what everyone enjoys so today we will explore what ejaculation means in the context of edging and how to navigate those feelings.

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So you've decided to practice edging. But how do you know when you are ready to cum? I have had lots of men say to me that they are not interested in remaining uncummed over a period of days. This is a totally fine and reasonable position to take. So I thought now would be a good time to explore what this means and how we can navigate it according to our own wants and needs.

Lets start by exploring the differences in how we wish to express our sexual selves. For some men they like to be dominant they like to express
themselves by taking control of another person or of a situation and feeling like they have power. For other men they like to be more submissive, that is they like to have someone tell them what they should be doing.

Your masturbation practice will also follow some level of dominance of submissiveness. If you are dominant with yourself you will feel the need to be aggressive, loud. If you are submissive you might like to be told to withhold your cum or be told when you are allowed to masturbate (even if this is only an inner dialogue). 

The cumming part of edging is therefore an expression of your own desire to either control yourself and your ejaculation or it could be an expression that you don't need to control yourself but rather want to force yourself out onto the world. Whatever way you think about it, it is a good idea to think about what it means to you and your sexual expression.

There may also be physiological reasons you wish to ejaculate or not. For someone who experiences premature ejaculation they will be focussed on not cumming because they are trying to train themselves to last longer. For some men they may experience a pain in their balls (sometimes referred to as blue balls) if they don't ejaculate. 

So we can combine these two aspects of ourselves together to decide on whether edging for us will always end in ejaculation or whether in some circumstances it will end without cumming. We might set ourselves a goal to cum every time we masturbate or maybe to only masturbate when we know we can cum. Or we might like to see how many days we can go without cumming as well. But we should think about these in relation to our physiological and sexual wants and needs. 

So what do you like to do? Do you like to always cum? Sometimes cum? Let me know!

That's it for another issue. Thanks for being part of this amazing community of men who enjoy masturbating and being a subscriber! Just a reminder that you can support this newsletter by either giving a once off amount or subscribing. Make sure you come and say hello on social media and if you can also sign up for the Bate Support Program. 

Also I really want to help as many men as I can to get more from their bate so you can always feel free to email me, DM me or reach out in any way you would like. We all have questions and concerns so no matter what they are I am always available to listen and if I can provide guidance!

Till next time Bators
Ben