That being said we have
Bateworld which is a wonderful resource of not only bate culture but also people who identify as bators. Again I know it is not perfect but it is an easy way of identifying someone who has similar interests to yourself. I have met most of my good bate buddies through it.
You can also use any of a number of other gay dating apps or sites to also find local bators. By looking for 'sides' on Grindr, Scruff or any of the other ones you can usually find someone who is looking for the same as you. I have also found a couple of people into bating on
Sniffies which is a location based web app that while clunky has a good concept.
I also want to acknowledge that some of the issues with finding other bators is directly linked to where you are located. I am privileged that I live in a large city with a large population of bators. This means I have a large pool to choose from. If you live in a smaller town or city you may find it much harder to find someone who's interests align with you.