Well we have now officially hit the middle of the year! Man Tools has been running for over 2 years now and we have hit 47 issues! This newsletter has been the inspiration for so much change in my own life and I have made some amazing friends through it! Thank you so much for coming on this journey with me!

I want to put in another plug for the weekly Twitter Space that I do with my good friend Nick from the BatorBro Parties in London. The conversations we have been having are really thought provoking. So if you haven't listened to any, start with our latest space, and you can find the rest posted on either Nicks or the Man Tools twitter pages. 

This weekend is also the first JackALL Club event in Sydney. This was little more than a thought I had in May while I was on holidays and is now a reality! Its been a steep learning curve and I am sure there is still more to learn but I have loved every moment of it. If you live anywhere near a Jack Off club I highly recommend going to one.

This is another topic which I have been thinking about writing on for a while. It has come up quite a few times in my discussions with other bators so I think it is a worthwhile discussion to have. It also needs to be part of a bigger discussion around bating for pleasure and bating to get off.

Firstly what do we mean when we use the term bator? For me I believe using the term implies some form of identity. An identity that includes receiving pleasure from the act of masturbation. Whether that is a purely solo act or whether that includes others, it implies a certain level of sexual satisfaction gained from this practice.

The experience of coming out can be  scary. It can be scary to tell people about things you've previously kept secret. It can also be scary to tell people you're a bator as you may believe there is some negative view held about that as an identity and as a sexual expression. But whatever fears you may have about their views on you, you've got to remember that those views do not change you. Whether they like it or not you will still be the same person you are today.

So how does one go about telling people they are a bator? I suggest you start by telling the people closest to you. You will need to explain to them what being a bator means to you as they likely won't know what that is. So start by explaining how much you enjoy pleasuring yourself. Everyone will understand at some level how to masturbate and will have done it in the past. Explain how you enjoy that practice as something more then just getting off, that is how you enjoy getting sexual pleasure. 

You may even find that as you tell people you're a bator that you will learn something about yourself. One thing I have really been noticing recently is how many different ways there are to express ourselves as bators. So by having to explain to someone independent of yourself what it means to you, you may find yourself getting to know exactly what you like about it. But just remember that what you enjoy and how you express yourself today may change over time as well.

From my own experiences when I have told people about being a bator, running this newsletter, and now running a jack off club, they have been very interested in this. I haven't ever had someone give me a negative view or tell me what I am doing is wrong. I have had some who have made jokes about it but I have never felt that was an expression of disapproval.

So now over to you! I want to hear your stories about coming out as a bator? Have you told your friends and family that you are a bator? Have you told people what being a bator means to you? What does being a bator mean to you?

I want to finish this newsletter with a special call out for all those members who are either current VIP Club members, or have been in the past! Without your support this newsletter and community wouldn't be able to exist! The mission of Man Tools is to provide a space in which men can come to together to discuss and explore their self pleasure through masturbation. So if you want to help support that mission then sign up today to the VIP Club!

Thanks again for reading this newsletter and engaging in the Man Tools Community! If you ever have any feedback or thoughts I always want to hear them.

Till next time Bators
Ben