But first let's start with a discussion around what makes it a quality bate. We all have different wants and needs when it comes to our bate practice. For some people, they like to go days without cumming, slowly edging themselves as much as they can. For others they may cum several times in a session and that feels good for them. We could also think about the general length of time we spend as well. Some guys do not want to be bating all day, while for others that is the dream to spend an entire day without distraction.

What I want you to do now is define for yourself what a quality bate will look like. Set a time, set out how you want to cum, what other things you might want to incorporate into that bate (toys, techniques, places). Now that you have your individual definition of what a quality bate looks like then we can start to look at ways in which we can increase the quality of our bates over time.

Let's start with an obvious need for most people and their bate practice, and that is more time. Maybe you are stuck in a rut of bating in such a way as you only get a few minutes to bate. Maybe you have the occasional longer session but not enough to satisfy your wants and needs. So for this one I suggest that you start by incrementally adding in more time. For instance, if you know that you are going to spend about 30 mins bating then challenge yourself to go an hour. Or maybe you know that you spend about an hour a day scrolling endlessly through social media, maybe you can take some of that time and bate instead. Whatever it is just do small increments.

Another good way of increasing time, in our bate practice, is to plan out some dedicated time each week. In just the same way that we might plan out time for going to the gym or doing chores, we should also set time in which we are allowed and will be spending time bating. By setting time as bate time we are setting up a good intention that the time will be used for our bate practice and not other activities. 

Now that we have sorted ourselves out with more time then the final piece is how do we increase our self pleasure during the time we now have. I want you to again go back to your thoughts before, about how you defined a quality bate. What did it look like? Now we are going to start to experiment with different things in which we can take out bate practice to the next level.

One of the best things about being a bator is the practice of edging. It is through edging that we are able to increase our pleasure to higher levels. So if you're looking to increase the quality it is always good to think about how we can edge ourselves further. Edging at its simplest is getting ourselves as close to cumming as possible and then stopping. But we can make it even better by playing around with how we get ourselves to the edge - whether we use different strokes or toys. We can also play around with how long we wait between reaching the edge. Maybe you want to get yourself close and then totally stop and do something else and come back to it in a few minutes. The more we practice edging the more we can learn the feelings associated with cumming, and we can begin to prolong it further and further with the simplest of touches or techniques.

I want to add just a brief discussion here also around gooning. Gooning and edging are linked, in the sense that, to really be gooning you need to be riding the edge for long periods of time. When you reach a state of being gooned out it will be found through intense feelings bought on by edging. So if you have as part of you definition of a quality bate, being gooned out then you really need to focus your attention on improving and exploring your edging practice. The good feelings you get when you reach a gooned out state always start with edging. 

With the technique and time sorted we can turn out attention to the last piece which is what you actually want and need. Too often in life we put pressure on ourselves to act and be in certain ways. Bating is no different. The challenge here then is to remember that the reasons we bate are complex and never for one reason alone - it can be for pleasure, fun, boredom, self love etc. I want to encourage you therefore to bate with mindfulness. Remember to be in the moment and experience it all without needing to do or be anything.

What I am saying here is that quality does not just have to be about the actual process of bating. It can and is also about how we think about it. What I want you to do is cultivate an internal dialogue and understanding that bating is a practice that ground us to the moment. It can help us to see ourselves and be with ourselves in deep and meaningful ways.