It has been World Pride here in Sydney and the city has been alive with people and events! I've been really enjoying it but it has left little time for any decent bate sessions but I am sure they will return once I have more time on my hands. 

I have also expanded the Telegram channels if you still haven't joined. The Man Tools Member Chat has plenty of active members posting dicks and talking bate everyday. If you're after some bate material you can always follow the Man Tools Bate, Man Tool Bate Buds, Man Tools Public and Man Tools Cum channels which all feature bator porn. If what you're after is Gay Porn then head over to Gay Porn World Boys Fucking, Gay Porn World Blow Job, Gay Porn World Public. I'm also very open to any feedback or requests for additional channels so if you want something hit me up!

The other place I have been posting more is the Mastobate.Social mastodon server. It has been set up as a bator specific server and so I would highly encourage all Man Tools members to come and join in. Here you will find plenty of members posting dicks and talking all things bate as well. 

Todays newsletter was inspired by a post from Cam Fraser on Instagram. In it he talks about the distinction between sexual gratification - which is a specific sexual desire or need that is often achieved through sexual release or orgasm - and sexual pleasure - which is the broader experience of enjoyment or arousal that comes from sexual activities. So today I want to explore what sexual pleasure means in the context of being a bator.

One of the things I enjoy about bating is that I can explore myself, my body and my pleasure in whatever way I like. This freedom to explore yourself allows you to try out things you might not be able to with a partner. You might like to explore pleasure from your butt or you might like to play with your nipples. You might like to explore your bodily pleasure in a different place, or maybe you want to explore it in the water. Anyway you want you are free to explore that pleasure without any fears or judgements from another person.

Another great aspect of being a bator and expressing your self pleasure is that you can do it whenever you like. This means that if you feel like starting right now, you can. It also means that if you are doing it and you no longer feel like it you can also stop. This freedom to start and stop as and when you like is part of your expression of self pleasure as a bator.

Being able to try different toys and different techniques is also another aspect of self pleasure you can explore as a bator. Sometimes we limit our self expression around others which means we don't try new techniques. But during solo play with the opportunity not only to try them but do so without needing to explain why. If you want to hump the couch, you can. If you want to add in some toys, you can. If you want to use the other hand, you can. During solo sexual play you are only limited by your imagination. 

Lastly being a bator and exploring your sexual pleasure means that you can cum whenever, however, as often as you like. Unlike when you are with a partner there is no expectations that are being given to you by another. So you are free to choose for yourself what feels good in the moment. So if today you start bating and you feel like you want to cum quickly you can. But if today you start bating and you don't feel even close to cumming you don't need to. This frees your sexual play from the pressures that we can sometimes feel around cumming in order to please another. It also can help us to stop seeing our sexual practice as being focused on cumming and more on the pleasure it can give us in the moment. 

So what kind of sexual pleasure do you like to explore in your bate practice. Do you give yourself the time and space in which to explore your sexual pleasures in new and interesting ways. Does being a bator help you to experience pleasures that are unique to you?

Don't forget to sign up to the VIP club. The money allows me to continue to provide this space for men to explore themselves and their bate practice. It also creates a space in which men can get help and support for any issues they may face. VIP Members also get the newsletter before others and receive special editions in which I talk openly about experiences I am having. 

Thanks again for being a part of this great community of bators! I enjoy every interaction we have! I am always open to any questions or comments you have about bating, about life, about anything that is on your mind. 

Thanks
Ben