Aside from how we may each experience arousal, some of our masturbation practice is also dictated by our penis. Our anatomies are all so different that it often means we masturbate in completely different ways. As an example I have a friend who has a foreskin but to bate they pull it right back and hold it back while they bate. These anatomical differences lead us to different experiences both with ourselves and with others. I think I've told this story before but there is one guy who when he plays with my cock he can make me get close to the edge very quickly but with others I don't seem to have this issue.

These anatomical and body difference also play out in things like which sex toys or aids we like to use. Take cock and ball rings as an example, I have spoken to lots of guys around their preferences and for some  like really tight ones, while for others they really like to have the extra sensation on their balls. In some cases these are more than just preferences they are actually a result of the way in which our bodies are different to each other. 

On the flipside to this is that some of this is also learnt behaviour. We learn at a young age through experiences we have and we take those experiences as something which become part of who we are and how we understand the world around us. This can be especially evident in having certain fetishes or sexual preferences. We may have had an early experience which is either extremely pleasurable or which is extremely traumatic and we may react to this by forming an association with that act that endures throughout our lives.

What this means is that it sometimes good to challenge exactly what we like to do with out bate practice. If we always look at porn when we bate we should try without it. If we always use a particular method when bating we should try some new ones. It is through examining our assumptions, both from an arousal and bodily perspective, about what we enjoy that we may find new and interesting ways in which we can experience self pleasure. 

Another way we can change our bator experiences is by getting someone else to join us. This challenges both our individual preferences but also our bodily reactions. When we remove ourselves from the actions and allow someone else to touch and caress us our brain interprets those in a different way. In this way we may find things that someone else does to us which feel really good and which we may then try ourselves and also feels good.

Just as our arousal and bodily experiences led to ways in which we bate, when you are with others you will learn about theirs. It is natural for us to perform actions on someone else that we know we enjoy. We will then look for cues from the person we are with to whether they are enjoying those some things we do. In this way we will be exploring the other person through our own views of arousal and bodily pleasure. Again like before we may through this experience things which we wouldn't have done to ourselves but which through another we realise is actually very pleasurable.

What I hope you have taken from this is that we are all unique in the way in which we experience our masturbation practice. We are shaped by our past experiences and our bodies in ways that we can't escape. By examining these and looking for new experiences, whether on our own or with others, we can find new ways in which we can experience our bates. My challenge to you is to seek to always be learning about what turns you on and how.