Christmas has Arrived
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It is time to CUM!
As we are in the middle of what some people call no nut november I wanted to celebrate that which they don't want you to do! I was inspired about this topic through being an ambassador for the Bateworld campaign and writing an article about it for the Bator Blog. I also briefly discussed it on last weeks Twitter Space with my good friend Nick of BatorBro Parties in London. 

I want you to cum! I want you to enjoy cumming! I want you to think cumming is the greatest thing a man can do! One of the topics I have been exploring recently, has been the intersection of fetish and kink with that of bators. One area we can explore around this is cum and the various cum festishes people have.

I am going to explore 3 different cum fetishes today, edging, cum denial or cum control, cum play, and bukkake. 
1. Edging

I know that I talk a lot about edging. But I do love it and the way it makes me feel. It also stops your bating being centred around cumming and allows you the time and space in which to explore yourself, your pleasure, and your preferences. It teaches you to see how far you can bate without going over the point of no return. It teaches you to prolong your pleasure.

But what I love most about it is that it takes away the desire to cum quickly. It forces you to learn patience and to submit yourself to all the feelings. Most of learnt at a early age that we should get through our masturbation practice as quickly and quietly as possible. Edging is us as adults taking back our ability to pleasure ourselves and giving us the time and space in which to truly explore that for ourselves without the fear of judgement. That's why we form communities around ourselves as men who bate and who enjoy it!
2. Cum Denial/Cum Control

Now I am always a little bit hesitant to talk about cum denial as I find that sometimes it can be problematic. That is because it gets co-opted by extreme views that link it to all sorts of supposed health benefits. But instead what I want to talk about today is more in the realm of a kink of control. It is more about how you can deny yourself something you know that you really want but that you've not yet had permission (from your dom or yourself) to ejaculate.

Of course you can  practice this on your own by extending the length of time between when you are allowing yourself to cum and seeing how long you can do it for. I sometimes do this both consciously and unconsciously. I have spoken in the past about how I used to feel like I suffered from premature ejaculation (I still find it easy to cum but have since realised I am not clinically a sufferer). Because of this I have some internalised need or want to consciously hold off from cumming as long as I can. Therefore I often will deny myself to cum at the end of an edging session as something I believe I should be doing not as something I need to do.

The other main aspect of this, is of course, when someone else takes control of your ability to cum. In this situation you will have a dom who is in charge of when you are given permission to cum. This can be incredibly arousing for some people and therefore could be something that they will seek out. So if this is something you've ever wanted to explore take this as your sign to go and find someone to do this with. It could be as simple as finding someone to edge you. Or it could be as someone who gives you directions over the internet. Whatever it is you should explore it. 
3. Cum Play

This is something that I also know a lot of guys might do but not really thought about. That is the enjoyment of playing with and manipulating cum. Now this can be either their own or someone else's cum depending on the situation but what they enjoy is the textual feeling, or the idea of it. They might rub it on themselves or they might save it up and use it later, possibly even ejaculating into condoms as well. Whatever it is they enjoy playing with it.

So if you do have some form of fetish that exists around cum in this matter you are free to explore and share it. Your cum is yours. Or if you want someone else to give you their cum ask them.
4. Bukkake

The last cum fetish we are going to explore is Bukkake. This is when a guy wants to receive, or probably more accurately be cummed on, by multiple people. Featuring a lot in porn, some men have desires in which they just want to have all the cum on them from as many guys as they can.

I have had a few guys through the bate club who really have this desire. I have also had men who would identify more as straight (heteroflexible) or bi that have had a deep desire for this as well.There is something so lustful about the one who is wanting to receive the cum, that is highly erotic.

So that is just a short exploration of some of the various cum fetishes that I have come across. Is there one that you are really into that I've missed? Or do you want to share your cum fetish with others? Then you can always send me a message as I love receiving your notes. 
Thanks for reading and being a subscriber. I love that I get to connect with you all in such a deep and personal way. I really hope that I have encouraged you to go and explore some cum fetishes and maybe play with your cum a little bit. 

Thanks as always! Till next time Bators!
Ben
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