Another great month! This month not only did I host another successful JackALL Club event, but I also had a weekend away for a good bate with mates! Being able to spend extended periods of time with a small group of bate buddies was so much fun. We had a big night on the Friday with plenty of beers, time in the hot tub, and obviously some hot sexual fun. We also took turns being in the hot seat where the others got to give us pleasure using various toys and body parts. If you think this is something you would like to try I highly recommend it.

I also hope you have been enjoying the shorter, more frequent newsletters. I have certainly enjoyed writing them. I already have the next few topics ready to go but if you do ever have ideas I am always looking for new topics. Also if you have any feedback about the newsletters themselves then I am always open to your thoughts.

Before we get on to today's guest writer, just a reminder that Man Tools exists to help men to explore themselves through their own sexual pleasure. You can help support this message by signing up to the VIP Club for just $5 per month. So if you've been thinking about supporting now is the time to join. 

This month we have another guest writer. His name is Jason Armstrong and he is the author of Solosexual - Portrait of a masturbator as well as The Happy Hypersexual both of which are available on Amazon. You should also follow him on X (Twitter) or Bateworld. 

Autosexual
Mirror, Mirror, On the Wall…

There are bators who are exhibitionists, displaying their masturbation sessions on cam or in videos posted online and getting off on knowing they are bate fuel for other bators, their image lighting a match for the bate sessions of men around the globe. Then there are bators who are voyeurs – like the pornosexuals for whom pornography is what they want and need first and foremost to ignite the bate. But what if you could be both exhibitionist and voyeur, even while alone?

The autosexual is one who is sexually turned on by his own image. Who hasn’t pulled a Barbra Streisand moment as in the film Funny Girl, passing by a mirror and saying with a sly smile, “Hello gorgeous”? Every where you turn, we are told that self-love is important and for many of us, that self-love can be sexual. The sight of myself in a looking glass, whilst I sniff my pits, hear myself moan or talk dirty to my reflection, tasting my own spit as I kiss myself, making love to myself with my entire body pressed (carefully, so as to not crack the glass!) against the mirror activates all my senses and I become my own porn.
This type of sexual self-adoration is not at all dependent upon how stereotypically “hot” one is. I think of myself as an average Joe physically, but in the heat of an autosexual moment, I feel like an Adonis. I can’t help but wonder if those who really are model types might be too self-critical to dive deep into a sea of self-love.

I can be critical too, but not in the way you may think. Many bators enjoy masturbating to their own bate vids. I don’t. I’m not so critical of myself, per se. In fact, I’m not always paying attention to myself when I watch myself in vids jacking off. Rather, I wonder how I ever thought red drapes on my windows would ever go with beige walls!

Too many times in my life, I figuratively hit the wall in my journey to self love. Like so many others, I searched, often in vain, for approbation from men. Was I worthy? Sexy enough? Was I indeed, enough? Too many times, even when men did tell me I was sexy, there was a terrible tendency to doubt them.
Allowing yourself to be the object of your own affection, and dare I say, your own sex object, is the ultimate in self care. To realize that you yourself can give yourself what you need emotionally, physically and even spiritually feels groundbreaking, and sometimes surprising. It’s like the surprise Dorothy must have felt upon learning she always had the power to go back to Kansas.

There is nothing as glorious to me than to watch another man goon. There he is, drooling and cock babbling, a mess of the highest order, at his most vulnerable and his most powerful. The power of one’s cock, one’s ass, one’s lust is divine yes, but this is not all woo-woo talk – it can be divinely filthy. To goon, to monkeybate, is a release of epic proportions. I want you to see yourself do that, go to that place, by watching yourself in the mirror. For lack of a better phrase, it’s a real trip.
And when the goon ends and you recall what it was like seeing, in the flesh, the power of your own sexuality, it is a gift and a memory that no wave can wash away, that no fire can burn away. And the ability to experience this is not a gift that you must wait for someone else to give you. Miley Cyrus is right when, in her Grammy-winning song “Flowers”, she sings about holding her own hand and loving herself better than anybody else can.

Autosexuality might just be the next step in your journey as a solosexual. A full-length mirror will cost you about $100. The pleasure it can give? Priceless.
I hope you enjoyed this guest article from Jason Armstrong! Being able to hear from others about their experiences of themselves and their sexual identity is so important. If there are other writers or bators you think should be included you can always let me know. 

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Thanks as always! Till next time Bators!
Ben
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