Are you a patient bator?

It made me think that there can be a level of patience required for bating. When you're not feeling particularly patient you might want the length of time to be quick. You might want to edge a little bit but you will want to reach a climax as soon as you can. How can we allow ourselves the patience it takes to really get into a good bate?

One method I use it to make sure that I am listening to my body and the urges it has. We all know that if we don't cum often enough we get feelings that we want to. We may also have other bodily things happen, such as getting erections, that will give us signs that we need or want to have an ejaculation. By tuning into these signals we can make sure we are giving ourselves the things we need in a timely manner.

Another way in which we can start to increase our patience is by focusing on lengthening our sessions when we can. Habits form by repetition and consistency. If you are routinely only giving yourself short periods of time in which to bate then you will only want to have quick bates. You don't need to go berserk and try for all day marathons. Simply extending the time to 30 mins to an hour is enough. 

The last method I am going to suggest is cumming less often. This kind of goes against my first method, but this one is more about delaying when you've been playing with yourself. Whether you decide to bate for an hour and then not cum at all. Whether you decide to bate, have a break, come back and cum. Or even if you decide that you're not going to cum for a week. What I am suggesting you do here is be intentional about when you are going to cum. You don't always need to cum straight away and if you can't not cum every session at least do so in a mindful manner. 

By exploring some of these methods, either combined or selecting those which work for you and your body, I hope you can incorporate some patience into your practice. By being patient with ourselves and our bate I also hope that you can learn something new about yourself, and your pleasure. We all can get ourselves into routines which are about doing things quickly, but being mindful about our bate practice can help us to refocus on our pleasure.